Psychologists, therapists and emotional intelligence professionals often emphasise the importance of attitude. Yet we can hardly imagine how deeply our outlook on life influences us and, therefore, our future. My experience as a clairvoyant and my work with many clients have reinforced this view.
From our health to our material wellbeing, a negative attitude can affect us deeply, while a positive attitude can have the opposite effect.
Why, if we know the solution and it seems so simple, do we find it so difficult to be more positive? In my view, our mind—which, as I have mentioned in other posts, often governs us rather than our true or higher self—has been conditioned towards negativity. This conditioning begins in childhood and continues throughout life, shaped by our family and wider environment, and is based on fear. We are afraid of almost everything. I do not find it enough to say that fear is simply a human response essential to survival. Of course, I am not referring to entirely justified fears, such as the fear of being attacked or of seeing one’s family suffer hunger and hardship because of the wars and famines affecting many parts of the world.
When I say that we fear almost everything, I am not exaggerating. Above all, we fear what can hold us back most: other people thinking badly of us, or, in other words, disappointing them. This can shape our daily actions and relationships. I believe that religions, politicians and powerful elites use this fear to influence us. We fear not being physically attractive, not succeeding in the ways we have been taught to value, and becoming ill, sometimes to the point of overusing medication. We may even fear life itself. These responses can become so automatic and familiar that we no longer notice them.
I recommend the film After Earth, in which Will Smith—whom I admire as a person as well as an actor—plays an officer who helps humanity survive an alien threat by controlling his fear. The creatures use fear to detect their human victims. The following conversation between the character and his son illustrates this idea:
” I went out to run. Alone. Something we should never do. An Ursa stops camouflaging itself in front of me. I reach for my sabre. It fires its claw. It cuts through my shoulder. Before I know it, we’re falling off the cliff thirty metres straight, straight into the river. We settle at the bottom. It’s on top of me. But it is not moving. And I realize that it wants to drown me. I’m thinking, “I’m going to die. I’m going to die. I cannot believe that’s how I’m going to die. ” I see my blood bubbling, mingling with the light, shining in the water. And I think, “Gee, that’s precious.” And everything moves more slowly. I see his claw piercing my shoulder. And I decide that I do not want that thing there anymore. So I pull it out. And it lets me go. And more than that, I realize that it cannot find me. It does not even know where to look. And then I realized that fear is not real. Fear can only exist in our thoughts of the future. It is a product of our imagination causing us to fear things that do not exist in the present and that may never exist. That is almost madness, Kitai. Do not get me wrong. The danger is very real. But fear is a decision. We are all telling a story. And that day, mine changed. ”
How often have we felt distressed about a problem that existed only in our imagination, simply because it might happen, only to find that it never occurred or was less serious than we expected? That anguish, fear and sadness—in short, those negative emotions—can affect many aspects of our lives.
We all know people who have succeeded professionally and personally, or at least achieved stability. In my experience, they tend to have a positive outlook and face serious problems without becoming overwhelmed or falling into negativity or a sense of helplessness.
This is not easy, but it is worth trying to change gradually. I believe in the law of attraction: that what remains in our thoughts, and what we express in words, influences what we attract into our lives. In this spiritual view, the Universe listens to us. Let us avoid constantly repeating phrases such as “I am so unlucky” or “I cannot do it”.
Although nothing can help us as much as a positive attitude towards adversity, energy therapies such as quantum therapy can help us channel our energy and work through fears, trauma and other states that cause distress or illness.